Shireen is a highly qualified and experienced legal secretary, who has a diverse expertise in the legal field for more than 15 years. Shireen currently works with 3 partners in a law firm in Dublin.
“Your value doesn’t decrease by someone’s inability to see your worth.” ~Unknown
Others will treat you as you expect to be treated!
During my twenty-year career I have had the opportunity to work in two differentcountries one in Europe and the other in Africa,in different kinds of company’s and varying administrative roles. This has meant that I have had to adapt and grow as a person.
When I started out in my administrative career I was so eager to please and to prove my worth,but sadly, I had no sense of my own talents or the value I brought with me to work everyday. Here I was putting all my energy in trying to make it work and being liked, that many times I abandoned or pushed aside my own needs. The result was, that I was seldom taken seriously or even noticed, you see I didn’t respect myself enough to realise I deserved to be treated better.
It is natural for us to want to feel valued and respected and for our ability/talents to be valued and matter.For me this meant that I had to start visualising what I wanted and believing that I could achieve this.
I have always supported my husband and his drive to excel in his career and this has meant that I have moved around a lot and worked at a number of different companies. I never really built up enough confidence in myself or valued what I had accomplished. Therefore, when I applied for a position as a legal secretary in one of the top law firms, I was first unsure if I would even get an interview let alone be successful. So with my husband’s assistance I started working on defining and showing the success’sin my career. It was a small step, and the start of recognising my value and what I had accomplished,as well as being a foundationto build on going forward. This meant that at the interview I was more confident in who I was and what I could add and bring to the team. Over time my sense of self worth has moved from just believing I was valuable to portraying it. Who I am as a personis my brand and I have worked hard for it, why should I give someone the power to make me feel less valuable? By the way I did get the job….
So in learning to recognise my value here are a few things that I have worked through:
- Defining my professional values;
- Defining what I bring to thecompany and team;
- Realising what makes me feel respected or valued in the workplace. Sometimes you need to realise what doesn’t make you feel valued to find out what does; and
- Discovering my core values that define me as a person.
I have learnt that in respecting myselfand mychosen professionothers will respect me and myprofession.Believe in yourself, respectyourself as a valuable employee and believe that your input is important.
If you feel under valued or not respected recognise that you have the power to change how you feel. It might be that you may need to realise that your beliefs and perceptions are causing you to feel this way and make a conscious decision to refocus your thinking and remember what you bring to the team and that you are valuable. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent”
Self-doubt is complicated, you have to solve it for yourself—no one can do it for you. So take control, get out of your own way and believe that you deserve to be valued and respected for what you bring to the team.
I can’t make people value me
All I can do is show them who I am
What I feel
And what I believe in
It’s up to them to realize my worth